Reasonless Happenings
A couple things have happened in the past few days that have bummed me out. First, a friend of mine found out on Friday that she'd had a miscarriage, this was her first pregnancy. For some reason miscarriage have always depressed me more than other bad things that could happen to my friends, there is just something different about them. There is something about expecting a sweet little bundle of joy, and then finding out that you will never get to meet that child. Also, I'm upset because I know how much my friend wanted to start her family, and how much she must feel right now. The second thing that has gotten me down are the crappy cliches I've heard others throwing around in their attempt to deal with what has happened.
"Everything happens for a reason." Bull shit.
I hate that phrase. People quote it like scripture, and indeed some people believe that they actually are quoting scripture. Well, let me educate you, those words, nor any paraphrase of those words, appear anywhere in the Bible. I understand why some people say it, it's like your blanky when you were a child, it provides you comfort and it shields you. In this case it shields you from the truth, the cold, hard, ugly truth that in this fallen world shit happens, and it happens a lot. The world is cursed, plain and simple, and in a cursed world bad things happen, without warning and without reason.
Actually, there is a reason for some things. Hurricane Katrina happened because of warm water in the ocean and the way the water molecules react with one another to form a storm, but that's as deep as the reasoning goes. My friend last week, and several other friends in the past, had a miscarriage because the human body is not perfect and just doesn't work right all the time. But some people would want to tell my friend that not only did her miscarriage happen for a reason deeper than biology, but that it actually happened for a good reason and that good will come out of it. I imagine that is just about the last thing that she would want to hear.
I would love to believe that everything happens for a reason and that good will come out of every tragedy, but everything I've seen and everything I've read, in the Bible and elsewhere, just won't let me believe that. But there is still good in life, and one, or many, bad reasonless happenings shouldn't make us lose hope that we will ever experience happiness and joy again. Any no matter how much pain we experience, with or without reason, we can still experience the ultimate good in a life beyond this one.
"Everything happens for a reason." Bull shit.
I hate that phrase. People quote it like scripture, and indeed some people believe that they actually are quoting scripture. Well, let me educate you, those words, nor any paraphrase of those words, appear anywhere in the Bible. I understand why some people say it, it's like your blanky when you were a child, it provides you comfort and it shields you. In this case it shields you from the truth, the cold, hard, ugly truth that in this fallen world shit happens, and it happens a lot. The world is cursed, plain and simple, and in a cursed world bad things happen, without warning and without reason.
Actually, there is a reason for some things. Hurricane Katrina happened because of warm water in the ocean and the way the water molecules react with one another to form a storm, but that's as deep as the reasoning goes. My friend last week, and several other friends in the past, had a miscarriage because the human body is not perfect and just doesn't work right all the time. But some people would want to tell my friend that not only did her miscarriage happen for a reason deeper than biology, but that it actually happened for a good reason and that good will come out of it. I imagine that is just about the last thing that she would want to hear.
I would love to believe that everything happens for a reason and that good will come out of every tragedy, but everything I've seen and everything I've read, in the Bible and elsewhere, just won't let me believe that. But there is still good in life, and one, or many, bad reasonless happenings shouldn't make us lose hope that we will ever experience happiness and joy again. Any no matter how much pain we experience, with or without reason, we can still experience the ultimate good in a life beyond this one.
posted by Radioactive Crow at 9:44 PM
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